It’s been strange adapting to life with a stay at home dad.
Whilst I am generally happier at work, I do feel like things are slightly the wrong way round, and it’s hard not to be a control freak about things. You know things like:
- Yeah I got locked out today when the baby was inside;
- I just left him with the neighbours for a few hours, he likes it;
- He was asleep so I left him in the car and powerwashed the pavement;
- I can’t watch him all the time, sometimes he’s in a different room
I have to let things be sometimes, but it is a challenge.
I also know how difficult it is to be at home by yourself, so I don’t go out much and struggle to leave work on time so that I can give the Turk some relief at tea time and beyond.
I definitely think that he finds it harder than me in some ways, multitasking isn’t a skill he has so he is really struggling to get anything done, which means that his default position tends to be making sure that the task is done at the expense of supervising Jem.
The upside to this is that the boy is definitely more independent than he used to be, his tolerance for entertaining himself has increased massively, as has his love of CBeebies.
There are some things he finds easier, he is much more patient than me, he takes the time to enjoy play when there isn’t housework to be done, I always feel that there’s something ‘better’ I should be doing.
There is no right answer, there are just words.